Over the years, I’ve found that one of the biggest keys to improving your lifestyle is having positive thoughts, even when a situation seems impossible. I’m currently working on a book called Life Lessons From Rock Bottom. In this excerpt, I’ll share some of the lessons I’ve learned about having a positive outlook on life, lessons I’ve learned from the addicts I work with as well as my own recovery from meth addiction. I hope they can help you too:
- Keep a thought diary – Buy a notebook and keep it with you throughout the day. Write down the thoughts you have and, most importantly, what led to those thoughts. Reading back through it, you’ll start to see a pattern of which events cause which feelings – and eventually, you’ll hopefully start seeing a change in a positive direction.
- When responding or reasoning with someone, always use a gentle voice – This will help ease the tension of those around you.
- Ask yourself why – Next time you have a negative thought, ask yourself why you feel that way. Is it because of fear? Anger toward another person? Jealousy? Knowing why you feel the way you feel can help you change in a positive way.
- Take a “breather” – If you find yourself frustrated at a particular situation, take a deep breath and count to 10. If you still haven’t calmed down, take another few breaths. The key here is that you should never respond to something if you’re not calm.
- Use constructive language – Instead of always thinking, “I can’t,” transition your language to “I can” thoughts. Even if it takes many steps to get there, I bet you can find a way to make it happen.
- Always think positively of new people – Even if a person is telling you something you don’t agree with, that doesn’t mean they’re a bad person – that’s just their viewpoint. Try your best to keep an open mind about someone, even if you’re not in total agreement.
- Admit your mistakes – If you make a mistake, admit it. Many people get the idea that mistakes are always bad, but they can actually be a great learning experience.
- You are who you surround yourself with – If you find yourself feeling negative, take a look at those you spend time with and make sure they have a positive influence on your life. If they don’t, it may be time to find more positive friends.
- Immerse yourself in positivity – Find positive quotes, fun photos, and other symbols of what makes you happy and paste them on your bedroom walls or around your desk. Make it so positive things surround you wherever you look.
- Be “okay” that you can’t please everyone – It’s okay if you can’t please everyone. You’ll encounter a lot of people throughout your life, and it’s impossible to please everyone you meet. Be okay with that and let go of negative thoughts.
Keep these tips in mind if you’re ever feeling negative. Using just a few of them in your daily life can help you lead a happier, healthier life.